Before we begin, a necessary disclaimer. This article contains discussions of domestic violence, psychological abuse, and high-control religious systems. These are heavy, raw topics. If you are currently in a crisis or triggered by these themes, please prioritize your safety and consider skipping this Volume. For those ready to listen, we have provided a safe list of resources for domestic violence and leaving high-control groups at the end of the article. You are not alone.
It was supposed to be a fresh start, but it’s a cancellation. A humiliating moment that Taylor Frankie Paul, of Momtok and The Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives, will have to live with for the rest of her life. Taylor Frankie Paul is a survivor, and she is a mess. When she throws a chair, society calls her a monster. Is she? No. Did she make a bad choice, and should she have a consequence? Yes. But what is that going to solve? What needs to happen is a break in the abusive cycle. Dig deeper before judging and canceling her.
Days before Taylor Frankie Paul was set to become the first “Mormon Bachelorette,” Disney/ABC pulled the plug. The reason?Leaked footage of Taylor’s reactive domestic violence incident in 2023. The same week, the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives production was halted. But this isn’t about sensational gossip. This is about hypocrisy and the constant repeat of trauma being ignored.
Society’s double standard of messiness. We as a culture demand that a woman’s trauma be carried with grace and poise. We embrace the women with stiff upper lips and the ability to pick up and move on without complaining. What we refuse to handle is the reactive victim, the angry, messy, fractured woman who struggles with the cycle of toxic relationships, toxic ways of dealing with situations, lack of support, and lack of any hand-holding.
All the while, some men, actually many men, are given a pass or ‘enters’ into a wellness center, say they’re sorry, and then go right back to the life they had before. Women? They are seen as unhinged, disturbed, or someone who could be a danger to themselves and their children. We’ve audited the 2026 culture ideal of domestic violence, and it’s still misaligned.
This isn’t just about MomTok, it’s a failure of institutional support. Highly controlling religions that prevent women in the church from seeking or learning about sex, domestic boundaries, providing resources for abuse, or even providing support for those seeking help to leave.
This shouldn’t be looked at as Taylor having a breakdown or that she is a violent person; this should be a learning moment for all of us.
We should be looking deeper, understanding that she has been through some things in her life. She’s often sought out treatments and tries to better herself. We’ve watched the narrative shift, all in part of Taylor, if not, then she is one of those women who can be the breadwinners, take care of themselves, even in a misogynistic community.
MomTok was founded on the principle of supporting women and other moms, and yet it seems that it has changed, shifted into something that doesn’t do that at all.
To my Solo & Sincere audience, I know you understand this. These women are rebels working to push the norm to its limits. Yet they are trapped in the roles of the submissive, still at the mercy of whoever is holding the reins. Their scandals are just a part of a fractured life breaking the surface. Taylor Frankie, let’s give her the support she needs and lift her up even when she’s at her darkest moment.
If you are looking for actual information, resources, and help, visit these verified, independent links:
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: thehotline.org (Secure & Confidential chat available)
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): rainn.org
- Safe Passage (Leaving High-Control Groups): https://www.thereligioustraumacollective.com/blog/rebuilding-your-identity-after-leaving-a-high-control-group